God can restore broken marriages.
Do you believe that?
With all my heart.
Because I believe that nothing is impossible with God.
He’s never seen a situation that He can’t handle. He loves you. He cares for you. He wants the best for you. When He works in amazing ways, we experience His blessings and He receives the glory He deserves.
Sometimes when marriages are hurting or fractured, it is hard to see how God can put the broken pieces back together. But He can. I’ve seen it happen. He does it all the time. God is in the business of reconciliation and restoration. He makes all things new.
Here are a few words of wisdom to help couples who are at the breaking point of their marriage.
1. Be truthful. The road toward reconciliation is possible with God’s help. Be completely open and honest with each other and with God. Admit your need for help. Admit where you have made mistakes. Commit to speaking the truth in love, at all times. Don’t gossip. Don’t air your grievances on social media. Like Jesus, make sure your words are exactly what God would have you to say.
2. Believe. It is absolutely essential that someone BELIEVES – I mean, really believes – that the marriage can be saved. And these words must be spoken out loud: words of belief, words of hope. You should say things like, “I believe that God CAN put this marriage back together,” and “I believe this marriage CAN be better than it ever was before.” There is power in right belief. And there is power in saying these beliefs out loud. These words of truth will tear down the lies of satan, who is seeking to forever destroy marriages. These truths will lead toward forgiveness, healing, and peace. Speak right beliefs. Pray believing.
3. Take steps TOWARD reconciliation. I know what you are thinking. You are thinking, “You don’t understand the situation. You don’t know how bad my spouse has hurt me.” You are right. I don’t know. But God does. And He says that no person should seek to tear apart what He has joined in marriage. Reconciliation and restoration will probably NOT be easy. There may need to be an agreed upon period of separation and cooling off. And unless there are serious dangers of harm or violence, that period of time should be short, intentional, with specific steps toward reconciliation in place, things such as: marriage counseling, an appointment set for a meeting/date at a safe place, and regular communication with one another.
4. Get your godly counselors together. In the book of Proverbs we are reminded that with a multitude of counselors there is wisdom. Throughout the Bible we are told that by the testimony of two or three witnesses a matter shall be established. Jesus promises that His will WILL be clear and that He will be at work in the midst of two or three people gathered in His name. The point is this: if you just go around asking people for their opinion of how to handle the situation, you will get a mixture of ideas. But when you pull two or three godly friends together, then together with them you can seek the Lord and pray, and your friends can give you godly advice with one unified voice. We all have biases, experiences, and blind spots that could cloud our judgment. But if we are in a group with godly friends, seeking the Lord’s will together, our friends can speak truth into our lives, full of grace and love. God can guide us through their words. And they can encourage us and help us as we need help.
I am praying that the God of the universe – the God who set the stars in place – the God who created you, saved you, and knows your name – I am praying that the God who restored and reconciled us to Himself through the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ – the God who forgave us our sins and showered us with His love in Christ – I am praying that the God who can do exceedingly more than we can even ask, imagine, or think – I am praying that God will restore marriages, rejuvenate love and commitment, and make marriages better than new.
God’s way is the best way. It’s good for us and it brings Him glory. Trust Him. Follow Him. Praise Him.